Does Internet Dating Really Work?

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Write a couple sentences about something you saw in their profile that interested you, something about yourself that you share in common, and ask a question—that way they have somewhere to start with their response. And, you know who they are and their contact information without any effort at all. But the reason is irrelevant.

Digital technology has made dating easier for romantic hopefuls who are looking for long lasting relationships. I'd consider myself something of a success story, and I'm 22.

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Is it only a certain kind of person who ends up on a dating site at my age? Is that why I could only single out so few? Should I have made a bit of an effort in the real world before bothering with this? There are plenty of 18-22 year olds on dating sites, some are successful and some aren't. It's all about timing, good profile, and good picture. Do you think everything they put in their profile is the truth? I'd email them and see how the convo flows. Don't make this your only means to connect though.. Real world is well.. At 22, the Internet should be your LAST resort to meet someone. At 22 you should have a huge pool of friends, be going out, doing things, finishing school, etc... This time restraint also affects our ability to get out and do the things we did when we were younger. At 22 you don't have a career... Most of the early 20 somethings I have met or spoken to from a dating site have been whackjobs. I, personally, DO live a pretty active life. Diving, flying, this and that... After a week of work and other things it is nice to log into a site and check out a few profiles, strike up a conversation and see what happens. IF I were 22 again? I wouldn't waste my time here. I'd be down town, out with friends, so on and so forth. I wouldn't need the net because I have much more access to women than I do now - purely due to having a ton more free time. Secondly, it's a numbers game. It's no different than in the real world. You might go out on the town, get 10 phone numbers. Out of that 10, 3 might actually return your call or reply to your text. Out of those 3 you might get 2 dates. Out of those two dates, one might be worthy of seeing a second time. It's the same here. You might send 10 emails. Out of those 10 you might get 4 to reply. Out of those 4, two might actually look like their photo, out of those two you might meet one for a date. Since you're new to Internet dating, let me shed some truth on the subject. This is especially true the older the person is. Not saying that everyone is a fraud, but yes, 9 times out of 10 the pics are old and you can bet money they're going to be at least 20 pounds heavier then the 10 year old photo they are trying to fool you with. People treat online dating as if they're shopping for apples at the grocery store. You can bet your ass you're one of many she's talking to. Is this a bad thing? There's no point in putting all your eggs in one basket. IF you meet and hit it off THEN it's ok to stop looking, thank the others for their interest and focus on her. They have no intention of meeting you, they're just addicted to the attention you're giving them through emails. The chances you're going to find real love on any Internet dating site are slim. Not saying it never happens, but it is terribly rare. The Internet is GREAT for causual dating, meeting new people here and there... Most people are here simply for dating. Go out and do the things people your age should be doing. If you're just using this site to supliment your real life run ins that's one thing.... But being 22 I think you're making a mistake if you're using this or any Internet dating site solely. They generally aren't dealing with all the baggage -- kids, divorces, etc. My daughter met her fiance on this site and she didn't suffer nearly as many bad dates as I had to endure before I met the guy I'm dating. I say failed, they were nice people, not too bad looking, but they were either incompatible or clearly hadn't got over their ex-partners wives It depends on what you think is a failure, if your goal is marriage only, you could look at it that way. However, with such a narrow goal you'd be setting yourself up for failure. Out of the hundreds of profiles that had photos that interested me, I could maybe only put 6 aside that stood out for me and in all honesty only one of the 6 could be considered a good match. I'd say 90% were discarded because I didn't find the person attractive and the other 10% bar six got binned because I could tell by their profile we weren't compatible in ANY way. If you go into a bar and see a hot looking woman, your focus is only on that woman. You aren't taking into account that there may be 300 women in that club, given this ratio, only. In addition, not all the women at the club are single but online I know others will disagree they are at least a ll supposed to be single. And, you know who they are and their contact information without any effort at all. Like offline dating; online dating is what you put into it, has both pros and cons to it as well. There are many times I'd like to go out more and I feel like my idea of fun isn't consistent with theirs, and therefore I'm beginning to outgrow them. But this is kind of a whole different issue. Although that being said, that doesn't leave me much options to meet potential dates in real life and it certainly doesn't help that I have school, a job and my workout regimen taking up most of my time. My time with online dating is approaching two years now, and I came in having no prior experience in the dating world, so I've learned many valuable things that I don't think I would've known had I not given this a shot. Unfortunately my situation makes it difficult to meet new people, which therefore made the internet my primary source for dating, and I'm beginning to realize the truth in your statement. I've had a good handful of dates throughout my nearly two years on here and have only had one relationship which was short-lived since HE ended it. I'm now left wondering how things would've panned out if I had put this kind of effort in real life rather than online. One thing I noticed is that I'm way more selective online. I'm probably dismissing a lot of good guys out there, but at the same time, I don't see it being worth anyone's time to meet up if I'm feeling half-assed about it beforehand. I don't know how to put this nicely without stepping on someone's toes. At 22, the Internet should be your LAST resort to meet someone. At 22 you should have a huge pool of friends, be going out, doing things, finishing school, etc... This time restraint also affects our ability to get out and do the things we did when we were younger. At 22 you don't have a career... Most of the early 20 somethings I have met or spoken to from a dating site have been whackjobs. There are a lot of assumptions here. I can't speak for the 20 somethings you know, but personally... It's really hard to find women my age. Chemistry is totally absent! The best way to get a woman is to spark sexual interest in her, and that is a really tall order, on-line! In your OP you didn't even mention if the women had children. Seems a awful lot of women with children want a single guy, as they don't want more children not theirs or anyone else's. Men are VERY visual and almost all women will try and market themselves using their best assetts! They will all use, their most flattering pictures EVER taken of them even if decades old lol so more often then not, the woman you meet doesn't look at all like the one, you THOUGHT you might be interested in! As a man, you really have to know women, and you really have to be aware of the intricacies of on-line dating if you are to have any success at all! I'm starting to believe that finding the right person is incredibly difficult regardless. In real life, it's incredibly hit and miss but then you're more likely to fall for someone you wouldn't be attracted to based on their photos. At the same time, you're far more likely to end up with someone you're not compatible with. I mean, 51% of marriages in this country end in divorce, most people have at least 4 or 5 longer term relationships before the right person comes along. Then there's all the 20, 21, 22 year old single mums out there. I'm not going to tell my life story on a random free internet dating site, but I've experienced, witnessed, been in the middle of plenty of relationships that started, failed and ended. I've seen it in my own family my entire life, I've been part of it. I watched in disdain as the kids at school went through their petty 2 week long relationships and broke up. In some ways I think, if I join a site like this, maybe I can filter out the people who I know I couldn't make it work with before I even meet them and take a chance with the others and maybe avoid going through what I've seen so many others close to me go through. My views are very pessimistic, I know, but do you now see why I'm not out there speaking to random women in bars? It's largely because people start relationships for the wrong reasons. Most of the time it's out of pure physical attraction. I've written on this topic before. Love is something that happens. Love is something that finds you, and often when you least expect it. Internet dating is great for supplementing your dating arsenal, but in no way should it be your ONLY means to meet people. Right and there's Ms. There's no shame in enjoying Ms. Right Now, while you're waiting for Ms. Right to come along. Physically speaking, I'm a sucker for a nice as s always have been. So, I have no problem with bedding her and spending time with her till either she gets tired of me, I get tired of her or Ms. Right happens to cross my path. You just have to make sure you're UPFRONT and honest with them from the get-go. Don't promise a relationship if you have no intentions having one with them. They'll respect your honesty. Lets examine the way traditional dating works: 1. You meet someone from your area presumably 2. You find the person either at an event that you share a common interest or at a place you tend to visit. You may have mutual friends or contacts. Compared to online dating, you may only get a few dates in any given period. When targeting a potential girl to hit on, you're not sure whether she has someone or is interested in dating at all. Now, lets examine online dating: 1. In less than 20 minutes, you're able to peruse an abundance of potential dates. Your ties to them are quite weak. Aside from location and listed hobbies, you're still two completely total strangers. You know for a fact that they're interested in dating. So all you need to do is drop them a line. Unlike traditional dating where you get a phone number and then ask them out, online dating requires a series of building blocks that may start with e-mails, then chat then text, phone calls, and finally a meet. Conclusion: Online dating is efficient when it comes to quantity but there is a huge hurdle in establishing rapport. Traditional relationship eases the burden of establishing rapport but you don't get the wide selection of choices you may be seeking. I would compare it to going to a local store to pick up something or browsing through a walmart where everything is under one roof. Love is something that happens. Love is something that finds you, and often when you least expect it. Internet dating is great for supplementing your dating arsenal, but in no way should it be your ONLY means to meet people. Right and there's Ms. There's no shame in enjoying Ms. Right Now, while you're waiting for Ms. Right to come along. Physically speaking, I'm a sucker for a nice ass always have been. At the risk of shocking the entire forum community, I'm going to heartily agree with CinSav's comments. Online dating probably serves mature people better, people with time constraints and obligations to other people and other matters. Young people should be focused on getting themselves squared away with career, etc... CinSav is right-love is something that happens, that finds you. If you are so focused on MAKING it happen, you may scare real love away... I'd consider myself something of a success story, and I'm 22. My last long term relationship lasted more than a year was with a guy I met through pof, and I've now been seeing a guy for a little over a month who I met through this site and who I have a very good feeling about I'm now just here on pof for the forums. I suppose some people would consider my last relationship a failure in that it eventually ended, but I guess it all depends on how you look at it, I'm just happy that it happened and that I got the experience of it. I will say that in both cases I was the one who messaged the guy first, so maybe if you're lucky you'll have some lovely lady message you. I also know 5 other people, friends and aquaintances, who used pof and ended up in long term relationships with someone they met off the site. Am I a certain type of person? Not in my opinion. I have a couple different groups of good friends, I go out and socialize, I have hobbies and interests, I go to school, I work, I travel. I didn't start using pof because I'm incapable of meeting guys in the real world, I started using it so I could meet different guys than I would be likely to run into and meet in the real world, whether because they live in a different area of town, or have different hobbies and favourite hangouts than my friends and i do. OP, you say that you've gone through hundreds of pics of girls then crossed them off your list of potentials based on their profiles, but have you tried doing it the other way around? Do a search for picture-less profiles that interest you, message them a few times, then ask for a photo. You may be surprised, not all of the girls who don't put up pictures are trolls, some of them are quite attractive, I've been extremely plesantly surprised in the past by doing it that way. If I thought you'd take it seriously or not flame me for it I'd also suggest lowering your standards and going for girls with so-so pictures and great profiles, but I'm not naive enough to believe you'd take that bit of advice. Anyways, don't give up! It can definately work! I volunteer, but children and their parents are beyond a 15-year age difference and not the most socially-compatible people with me. While I had a very busy social life while attending classes, I don't have one at all anymore. My social interaction is entirely through the telephone and now internet webforums. I don't like to go out drinking alone or even often but alas I have nobody to go with and the hobbies I enjoy are all things I do by myself reading, writing. If I want to meet interesting people or date, I don't really have any way of meeting people, except for a website like this. Neediness, lonliness or simply wanting something. Sex in the case of men mostly and money, meals, entertainment and lifestyle upgrades for some women! Yes, a lot of women can be just like perspective employers. OP is 22, which I don't see a problem with. Now, what I don't understand is what could teenagers 18, 19 possibly want on an online dating sites? Some of these 18 year old individuals haven't even finished high school yet. The only reason why I spent nearly 2 years on this site, is because unlike some, I'm not here to look for Mr. Right and build a relationship through some silly free online dating site. From the way I see it, it will happen when it happens. I'm 26 years old and have just finished college. I've got a few good friends and am defiantly not into the bar scene. I'm pretty much a geek so my hobbies don't get me out of the house a lot and meeting people every day. I was 22 when I first had a girlfriend lasted two months. I was in a relationship with my 2nd and last girlfriend for 3 years. I don't think there is anything wrong with using an dating site at a young age. Yes meeting girls IRL would be ideal and you should never rule it out. But if your 22 and still never had a girlfriend then your shyness has kicked you in the ass too many times so I think it makes since that you would come here. These are basically the same reasons I'm at this site instead of scouring the bars. I've been coming here for a little more than a month and have met someone I've been chatting with a lot. I find her very interesting, smart and fun. However when I sent the first message it wasn't because I was interested, it was because I thought her profile was strange and wanted to comment on it. The problem is there are too many things that make people interesting that will not be in their profile. Don't only message people with great profiles message people with ones that are not bad for some reason. And who knows maybe Ms Right Now will end up being Ms Right. You just got your first GF at 22. That's all well and good, but here's the thing. Internet dating requires MORE social skills and experience than non-Internet dating. You may think this sounds crazy, but most of us use this site in conjunction with our real life activities. Here's what's going to happen. You see a profile you really like. You email her and make a great impression because you're confortable being the screen of your computer. She agrees to meet you for coffee and you completely drop the ball because you have no idea how to act, how to dress, how to carry yourself - why? Because you have no social skills. She is EXPECTING you to know what to do, what to say, how to act, etc. All you're doing is setting yourself up for a major let down. You NEED to out to a few clubs... Force yourself to go out and interact with women. Get some experience under your belt... Trust me on this. At the risk of shocking the entire forum community, I'm going to heartily agree with CinSav's comments. Online dating probably serves mature people better, people with time constraints and obligations to other people and other matters. Young people should be focused on getting themselves squared away with career, etc... CinSav is right-love is something that happens, that finds you. If you are so focused on MAKING it happen, you may scare real love away... I certainly don't believe I lack social skills. Perhaps I do lack the preliminary dating skills. I have never in my life actively looked for a relationship until recently. Perhaps this your your point but I do not feel like going to clubs by myself with the soul intent on picking up women will work well. If I don't enjoy the environment then I will not swim well. I do believe that I should seek activities that get me out and about but I also believe enjoying myself takes priority. Thanks for your advise regardless. Or find a place to participate in some type of dancing, take dance lessons. I don't know if it still goes by the sam name, but there used to be Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People workshops all the time. I remember my Mom taking one. It seems to me like just about any self-improvement or motivational seminars might be helpful. But the best way to hone social skills? I've known many couples in their 50s now, that got married at 19. I've known a couple people who are divorced now after a year of marriage, and got married at 30.

We can choose to get to know more than one man at a time. Is it possible that we will meet our just by signing up for all the dating sites and apps we can find. Force yourself to go out and interact with women. You'll have to watch the video, above, and find out. Couples who meet online than couples who meet offline. To solve such a mystery, I decided to dive into the belly of the beast, and set up a profile. Do a search for picture-less profiles that interest you, message them a few times, then ask for a photo. There are a lot of assumptions here. I wouldn't waste my time here. But online dating, according to new Northwestern University research, depends largely on ineffective algorithms and profiles for finding potential love interests. Just remember to take advantage of the tools available to you.